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[adafrog]

This is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time) on Friday to midnight on Saturday (8pm Eastern Time).

Poll #28104 Daily poll

This poll is closed.
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 37

How are you doing?

I am OK
26 (72.2%)

I am not OK, but don't need help right now
10 (27.8%)

I could use some help
0 (0.0%)

How many other humans live with you?

I am living single
11 (30.6%)

One other human
21 (58.3%)

More than one other human
4 (11.1%)

Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.

Comments

[ride_4ever]

Working on my last fic of this year: deadline tomorrow 5:00 PM CST. Cheerleading welcomed...and comments from anyone in Goncharov fandom especially appreciated as I write my first Goncharov fic.

[kathmandu]

Rah! Rah! Write, write, write!

Goncharov fandom is so interesting. People took the prompt of "What would the greatest-ever mafia movie by Scorsese be like?" and came up with all of these wonderful takes.

[ride_4ever]

Thank you kindly for the cheerleading!

Have you seen that the real Scorcese himself has gotten in on Goncharov, saying "Yes, I made that film years ago"?

[kathmandu]

I had not heard that yet! That sounds awesome!

[ride_4ever]

Check it out here: https://variety.com/2022/film/news/martin-scorsese-addresses-fake-film-goncharov-tumblr-1235442497/ .

[adafrog]

You can do it!!!

[ride_4ever]

Thank you kindly for the cheerleading! Fic is proceeding and the mounting crackiness of it is making me LOL at my own writing.

[adafrog]

Woot!

[ride_4ever]

3:45 AM. Going to get some sleep and then more work on this fic in the morning.

[ratcreature]

You can make it!

[ride_4ever]

Thank you kindly for the cheerleading! 300 words done and it's 3:40 AM. Going to get some sleep now and then more writing in the morning.

[mecurtin]

It's kind of shameful to admit it, but it's true: since my mom died I have *so much* more time and emotional energy available, every day. I had 2 scheduled calls with her per day, at minimum an hour total, and the emotional labor was immense.

I still have stuff to do as executor, but I'm keeping track of my hours to bill the estate, so it doesn't feel like water poured on the sand, it's just work.

[adafrog]

I don't think it's shameful. Taking care of someone takes a lot of energy and emotions. It doesn't mean you loved her any less. {{{hugs}}}

[mecurtin]

Thank you so much.

[ride_4ever]

You felt like it's "kind of shameful to admit it," and feelings are what they are...but it's not shameful to feel a resurgence of energy and more freed-up time. Be gentle with yourself.

[mecurtin]

Thank you, it's really helpful.

[ratcreature]

I had a similar experience after my father's death.

And if somebody you care for died from old age or illness after a period of decline, there was also, for me at least, the relief, that the bad thing you've been dreading has now finally happened. It feels perverse, because obviously you didn't want them to die, but now that it's over and has happened the dread is gone.

[mecurtin]

Yes, exactly. Thank you.