Checking In

[twistedchick]

This is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time on Friday) now to midnight UT (8pm Saturday Eastern Time).

Poll #24114 Daily poll

This poll is closed.
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 58

How are you doing?

I am OK
48 (82.8%)

I am not OK but I don't need help right now
9 (15.5%)

I could use some help
1 (1.7%)

How many other humans live with you?

I am living single
23 (40.4%)

One other person
20 (35.1%)

More than one other person
14 (24.6%)

Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.

Comments

[hitokage]

I'm not actually sure WHAT I need for help, mind you.
My son-in-law had to bring two of our grandsons over to stay with me and my wife until at least Tuesday after they overheard his own mother threaten to shoot him. They're doing okay, but they still had to hear that with their own little (7 and 5) ears, so yeah, they're scared and worried. Fortunately, we've got the room to take them, and we've got games and toys and kittens and air conditioning, so hopefully we can distract them enough to get them past it and by Tuesday maybe things will be resolved towards the better. :/ But I'm just ... fast running out of cope. And spoons. :p

[rose_griffes]

I'm so sorry. What a traumatic thing for everyone involved--including you. :(

[mecurtin]

Damn. What an awful situation. Let us know if you need any help.

[hitokage]

added a couple links down-thread, jelly brain can't think of anything else but prayers maybe

[ex_flameandsong751]

Oh goddamn that's awful. I am so sorry. As the above commenters have said, please let us know if you need anything.

[hitokage]

added a couple links down-thread, jelly brain can't think of anything else but prayers maybe

[goddess47]

I don't know where you are, but in the US, New York State has a 24x7 phone crisis hotline... https://omh.ny.gov/omhweb/covid-19-resources.html for a bunch of resources that are Covid-19 related, but they can pass you on if they aren't the ones to help.

I saw a semi-related post about dealing with a child's anxiety where a health care worker said the best you can do is listen and ask simple questions and be honest. Don't lie, as painful as that might be.

But look for a local crisis hotline to call and see if they can give you words to use. And help for yourself. You have our moral support, but you can use all the support you can get right now.

Good luck. **fierce hugs**

[hitokage]

In the US, but in rural South Carolina. Sadly, this isn't the first time we've had to do trauma management, these guys have been through entirely too much in the last two years, between losing a great-aunt to whom they were very close (drunk driver), D's cancer, parents' divorce, and entirely too many moves. Wife and I are getting a little too good at handling tough questions, but they also know they can always ask us anything and we'll try our best to be a safe space for them.

But I'll be looking into some more resources online tomorrow - did too many things today, brain is about to turn to pumpkin jelly. ^^;

[gwyn]

I am so sorry. This sounds like you're living through a waking nightmare. Are you aware of copperbadge 's Radio Free Monday? Every Monday he makes a roundup post about ways to help people in fandom. When I haven't been flat broke, I've tried to donate to folks through that.

[adafrog]

Oh damn. I'm sorry. {{{hugs}}}

[hitokage]

Mentioned that I'd made this comment in a public place and wife put together a quick Amazon wishlist of food items (snacks, juice boxes, breakfast bars) that would help the boys ... and tension tamer tea for us adults. Or if you want to toss a couple bucks, you can find me on Twitter (emorenosagt), I have a pinned post there with other links. We're not in a dire situation, but these two will graze through our snack supplies like the always-hungry growing boys they are. ^^

[mecurtin]

Sent via paypal.me. Take care of yourselves, too!

[colorless_landscape]

The aforementioned wife here. Side note to people offering help: The boys are 5 & 7, and typical of boys that age, are bottomless pits. I put together a list of snack type things. Most say Tuesday delivery, but if nothing else that will replenish our meager stores if it arrives after dad picks them up, or bolster our pantry if we have to keep them longer. (It's a sad testament that the only people dad can rely on are his disabled, single-income ex in-laws that live 2 hours away, but here we are)
https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3F8H7EBM1873W?ref_=wl_share

[kathmandu]

Yeech! Best wishes to all of you.

Update

[colorless_landscape]

To the people that sent us snacks for the boys, I cannot begin to thank you enough! They were SO excited when the boxes arrived and we opened them!! Which was a huge uplift for my heart and spirit. As soon as I got them open, D picked a juice box and pack of cookies lol