Daily Check-In

[mecurtin]

This is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time on Sunday) to midnight (8pm Monday Eastern Time).

Poll #23669 Daily poll

This poll is closed.
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 67

How are you doing?

I am OK
57 (85.1%)

I am not OK, but don't need help right now
10 (14.9%)

I could use some help
0 (0.0%)

How many other humans live with you?

I am living single
30 (44.8%)

One other person
18 (26.9%)

More than one other person
19 (28.4%)

Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.

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Welp, I tried one experiment, and it failed. Try, try again!

Comments

[twistedchick]

I am OK. Let's call it 95% OK.

The other part is a combination of somewhat nervous (I have a treatment at the clinic tomorrow), and annoyance that I am trying not to let become anger because that's not helpful. And what I'm annoyed about is that I have a good friend who is slowly dying of cancer -- let's say he's at home on the good drugs, 24/7 -- and I can't go visit. If I went I'd be risking giving him a much worth death, and risking his wife, also a good friend for more than 25 years, who is taking care of him. And it bums me out that I can't go hang out with them because being *there* is better now than online. He's online, and i see his sardonic comments. But I miss hearing his voice. And the way things are going, I don't know if I will again.

(yeahyeahit'sallaboutme, ignore this.)

[mecurtin]

Can you set up a video call with him? Or at least a phone call?

[twistedchick]

I don't know. He's mostly following FB on a phone, not much else, but I will have to find his number from someone; his wife's cell is the house phone.

[wyomingnot]

You can do voice chat on discord! Or do a skype?

Or, y'know. Phone call. Those are still safe.

[twistedchick]

I don't know if he is even using a computer now, other than his phone.

[libitina]

That sounds incredibly painful. You probably have a sense memory of exactly what visiting should feel like, and the world is thwarting that. I'm sorry. Hopefully you will find a way to capture some elements of that comraderie and comfort separately.

*sympathy and theoretical hugs*

[darkemeralds]

What a hard thing for you. Others have suggested Skype or Zoom, and those options do pretty well for me, but it isn't the same as being there. I don't know if a video call would be harder than text communication in the circumstances, too much of a reminder of what you can't have.

I'm so sorry. This is just hard.

[twistedchick]

That's part of it. He still looks like himself as I've known him -- but he is nearly skeletal thin now, and is like Essence Of Himself. I've been feeling so overwhelmed that I didn't want to pass *that* along also.